Have you ever been so hyper focused on something that you completely lose your perspective? Dealing with this isn’t easy. Hindsight may be 20-20 but when you’re living in the present it can be hard to see things clearly. I find that when I’m stressed out I overanalyze things way too much. In those times, I find myself constantly praying for peace. Peace of mind, peace in my heart. A calm heart and mind helps us see things clearly. But how do we lose our peace of mind in the first place? And what can we do to get it back?
Trying to Control Things – Or Even People!
I am a planner, and I generally like things to go as planned. As I get older I’ve gotten more flexible because I realize that things often don’t end up happening the way I expect them to. That being said, I do find that I lose my mind and my cool when the plan is altered. There are some things that are beyond our control. We can’t help that traffic made us late to the gym, that the power went out when baking for the school bake sale.
Another thing that causes me to lose my cool is my trying to control people. This was a big problem when I was learning to manage others at work. I wanted people to do things my way because I thought it was the right way. Frustration was overcoming me so I turned to God. I prayed for peace and for wisdom on how to handle the situation, and then I stepped back. I realized that people didn’t have to do things MY way in order to get the job done. It was still getting done, and everyone was happy!
It’s good to have a plan, and it’s good to have goals. But don’t let obstacles come in the way of losing your peace of mind. Know that sometimes people’s actions are beyond our control, and there are some things we cannot control. But all the time, God has a plan and He is in control.
Trying to Make Things Happen When the Timing Isn’t Right.
There are two instances that I can think of that this applies to the most.
The first is looking for a job or trying to find a new one. Looking for a job when you don’t have one is a full time job in itself. It’s frustrating, it requires patience, an a ton of self confidence. You spend hours looking for opportunities and sending resumes out. Maybe you landed a phone interview and then a second interview, only to hear that you weren’t “the right candidate.” That can send you into a spiral – wondering what you could have said or done better in the interview process.
The second is looking for a significant other, which can be similar to finding a job. You go on a first date and then a second date, and then the person says they aren’t ready. All you want to do is get married and start a family, but you can’t seem to find the right person. Does this mean there is something wrong with you?
In these moments I think “Why are you doing this to me God? My heart is ready! Send me the right person/opportunity.” Instead I have to step back and calm down. I like to start by thanking God for all of the blessings in my life. I follow that up by asking Him to give me the peace of mind to see and trust His plan and His timing for my life.
It All Comes Down To Control – Let’s Give it Up to God
Every situation that causes me to lose my peace of mind boils down to me wanting control.
Maybe things aren’t progressing fast enough – I’m not reaching my goals as quickly as I wanted to. Maybe I’m working so hard and so fast thinking that I’m doing everything I can that I get angry, burnt out, and want to give up. The truth is, there will ALWAYS be a problem that I’m dealing with that I can’t control. I need to learn to not lose my cool and my calm when problems present themselves.
You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you. – Isaiah 26:3
My peace of mind doesn’t come from me. It comes from God. God knows how to handle every situation with more wisdom than I could fathom. When I place my trust in His hands, I know that he will provide for me. That doesn’t mean money is going to magically appear in my bank account, or that I’m going to start a new job at the top of the ladder. But I know He will provide the opportunities He wants in His timing, and I’ll be learning and growing in faith along the way.